Once upon a time, I wanted to be a doctor, a journalist, a budding photographer, a pilot. I wanted to be free. I also wanted to recovery (fully) from an Eating Disorder that had consumed half my life. I’ve wanted a lot of things. Some stuff I got, others I didn’t.
Like many people, I’ve dabbled with many professions, taking multiple college courses (four to be exact) to try and satisfy my fundemental need for something more (something better) than what I had been currently living. I settled for blogging, photography and for promoting real organic living and healing to others than had been where I was over a year ago on this blog, even though, admittedly, I am not fully recovered, yet. I’ve come to be grateful for the journey that anorexia has taken me on, because I’ve learned to understand that this career, is the one I like the most. Why? Because it allows me to help others, be creative, and most importantly, it challenges me to be real, authentic, and vulnerable. Those squishy qualities can be frightening to share with others, especially publicly. After all, everyone wants to be liked. But what I know is, that the more I accept who I truly am, the more I shine like a diamond and the more I’m realising what I was put on this earth to do.
And that is true for you too.
Feast on this concept with me: It’s OK to accept myself unconditionally.
And an affirmation: I love and accept myself exactly the way I am.
It often hurts too much to reflect back on my past at the times I felt like I wasn’t “good enough”. I was way too hard on myself. I felt like I had to jump through hoops to be loved and appreciated. Rarely was I at peace with my efforts. I know Im not alone because of the emails I have received before (and after) I started this blog from the people who felt exactly like I did. It’s also not impossible to see that with the fierce competition in almost every field, with the pressure from the media, and with the endless fight for opportunities, young people are feeling overwhelmed and inferior compared to that of friends or someone they see as “better” than them. Our girls clearly need healthier messages.
If I could wave a magic wand and globally undo the blinding, binding words, “not good enough”, I would, but thats really not my job. It’s your job to work with yourself and within yourself. It’s also simpler than you think.
For quite some time now, I’ve been working on accepting myself unconditionally. Every part of me. My brilliance, my so-called weaknesses, even my short-torso, round face, and my medical issues that apparently can’t be “fixed” by nutrition (I’m skeptical). Acceptance means letting go of who we think we should be in order to fall in love with who we truly are.
Being at peace with yourself creates an endless sacred place that is perfect for healing. Remember, stress and self-hatred bleeds all life force. Accepting and honouring every ounce of YOU allows you to rest, renew. From that relaxed and receptive place, we gain the clarity and strength to create a new blueprint for a happy, healthy life.
Fall in love.
When we accept ourselves exactly as we are, in exactly this moment, we shift from living for tomorrow to appreciating today. Acceptance heals. Rejection harms. Nurture and nourish yourself. Here’s a few tips:
♥ Make a commitment, today, to start the healing journey from whatever it is that is holding you back from growing. You won’t regret the journey through healing.
♥ Allow for quiet time & meditation – most of my creative ideas come though silence.
♥ Forgive (yourself and others)
♥ Welcome loving relationships
♥ Release toxic relationships in every forms (in your real life, and on social media)
♥ Invest in gentle exercise (like yoga!)
♥ Eat nutritious plant foods!
♥ Smile – often.
Each time I release a peace of my creative work into the world, I worry – is it good enough? And then I remember. Acceptance. I replace my fear with an affirmation. (I love and accept my myself the way I am, and I love and accept my fabulous creation exactly the way it is!).
Sweet friends, the world loves you – exactly the way you are. Today! It’s time to be the best version you can possibly be, while accepting YOU as you are at the very same time!
What would be possible if you gave yourself the same unconditional acceptance that you give to others?