Since non of us really know how things are, we only know how we represent them to ourselves, why not represent them in a way that empowers both ourselves and others rather than creating limitations? In any experience, we all have many things in which we can focus on. Even the most positive of people can think of what isn’t working and can fall into a state of depression or anger – we can choose to focus on the things that are working in life, on the good. No matter how terrible a situation is, we can chose to represent it in a way that empowers us.
I guess, in many ways, life is like a river. It’s constantly moving, and we can be at the mercy of the river if we don’t take deliberate, conscious action to steer ourselves in a direction in which we have predetermined. If we don’t plant the mental and physiological seeds of the results we want, weeds will grow. Thus, its critical that, on a daily basis, we stand guard to our minds that we know we are consciously representing things to – we must weed our garden daily.
The world we live in is the world we choose to live in. If we choose bliss, thats what we get. If we choose misery, we get that, too. Our belief systems are specific, consistent, organisational approaches to perception. They’re the fundamental choices we make about how to perceive our lives and how to live them. So, the first step towards happiness is to find the beliefs that guide us towards the outcomes we want. Beliefs are the compass and maps that guide us toward our goals and give us the surety to know we’ll get there. Without beliefs, people can be disempowered – like motorboats without a motor. With powerful guiding beliefs, we all have the power to take action and create a world we wish to live in. Beliefs help us to see what we want and energise us to go get it.
In order to change our own behaviours, we have to start with changing our own beliefs. If you believe in success, you’ll be empowered to achieve it. If you believe in failure, those messages will lead you to experience just that – failure. Remember ‘wether you believe you can or you believe you can’t, you’re right.’ – both kinds of beliefs hold great power, that question is, what kinds of beliefs are best to have, and how do we develop them?
Today I’ll be sharing my own Seven Beliefs of Success that I’ve been adapting to my own personal circumstances over the last few months, to create circumstances in my own life in which I am happy with.
Belief 1 – Everything Happens For a Reason and a Purpose, and It Serves Us – In a nutshell, this is taking adversity and deciding to make it work for you in whatever way you can. All positive people have the uncanny ability to focus on what is possible in a situation and what positive results can come from it. No matter what negative feedback we get from our environment, we must think in terms of possibilities, remembering that everything happens for a reason and that it serves us.
Belief 2 – There Is No Such Thing As Failure – I don’t believe in failure, it doesn’t compute. If we try something and it doesn’t give us what we want? It’s all about the learning experience. We simply use what we’ve learned and try something else. We take new actions to produce new results. People who fear failure make internal representations of what might not work in advance. This is what keeps them from taking action that could change their lives. Belief in failure is a way of poisoning the mind and this is one of our greatest limitations. “What would you attempt to do if you knew that you could not fail?” – think about it, if you really believed you could not fail, you might create a whole new bunch of results.
Belief 3 – Take Responsibility – This one is fairly straight forward, it is the belief that we create our own world. I believe that we generate our experiences in life – either by behaviour or by thought, and that we learn by all of them. Our past experiences have shaped us into the beautiful people we are today – how can you represent your adversities in a way that will serve you tomorrow?
Belief 6 – Work Is Play – Do you know anyone who has ever achieved a successful result by doing what he hates? Me either. One of the keys to success and happiness is by creating a marriage between what you do and what you love. “The secret to happiness is making your vocation your vacation” – Mark Twain. I don’t think their are any dead-end jobs, there are only people who have lost the sense of possibility. So, lets all enrich our worlds with the same curiosity and vitality we bring to our play (and check my post on ‘Finding Your Passion’)
Belief 7 – There Are No Results Without Commitment – The people in the world who are the most successful aren’t necessarily the fastest, the strongest, the brightest or the richest, but they are the ones with the greatest of commitment, we only have to look at the field of sports to know many athletes hold this belief as strongly as I do. It is the quality of the commitment and the constant persistence that separates the good from the great. If we really want something badly enough, we must make a commitment do to whatever it takes in order to achieve it.
I hope this little window into my belief value system will help you to empower and create your own well structured belief system beyond that of constraints and limitations. Stay tuned – there is more to come on this motivational series!